I tried avoiding church for weeks. I didn’t want to get out of bed and face a crowd of believers and think it was all fake. When in reality, I was the fake one the whole time. I was fake in the sense that I was going through life and avoiding things that were meant to be accountable for. I was accountable for my faith, responsibilities, and the people around me. Somehow, with everything going on in my life, I got swept away with the burdens and didn’t think about the blessings. However, I came to realize that I was far more blessed than I could ever imagine.
I believe when we’re in difficult situations its easy to complain and tell the whole world our struggles. We want to vent and to dump the load on another innocent bystander without warning. Sometimes its okay to have that release of emotions, but other times it can be burdensome for someone else. We as humans need to realize how to effectively release our emotions without it being a heavy load for someone else to carry. And let me just say, that it’s no easy task to fulfill.
I’m guilty in telling people my problems in the wrong places and time periods. I dump off my load of problems in class, work, and church. It’s not always a bad thing to vent, but I need to learn to mind my mouth. My mouth loves running off its troubles in an attempt to release steam but its not effective at all. It’s distracting and just rehashes the same soap opera all over again. I’m currently learning to count my blessings more than my burdens.
I need to learn that its all in the attitude in how you approach problems or difficulties. I need to be positive and not dig myself into another hole that I can’t get out of by myself. I can’t rely on other people to hear me out when I need them to be. I need to be able to vent to myself and keep my heart guarded to some issues. We can’t be codependent and we can’t keep running our mouths to people who have no right in knowing our business. We can’t overshare some things and sometimes we need to become distant in order to protect ourselves.
We all make mistakes and sometimes we realize much later in how we react to certain situations. But I believe as long as we learn from them then we gain a better understanding of who we are and what we can do for other people. There’s a bigger world from our own and there’s bigger things going on than our own issues. Vent but don’t expect the whole world to stop and listen. Learn to speak out when the right people and situation calls for it. It’s all a balancing act.
Finally, even if the burden doesn’t feel like a blessing, something good always comes out of the ashes. I believe in the end that the heart is stronger than the mind to overcome negative actions and thoughts. If we allow our hearts to open up to other people, then the focus of our selfish minds fade away. We rekindle newfound friendships and relationships from the irony of various situations. And that, my friends, is what life is all about. It’s about finding the ironic blessings out of life because nothing turns out the way its expected to be and that is a blessing in itself.